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March 11, 2024
"Farewell Pinterest, Hello KOSA?"

December 12, 2022
"Stop Federal Persecution of Cozcacuauhtli"

February 18, 2021
"When Is a Library Not a Library"

November 2, 2020
"The Coup Started Five Months Ago"

October 27, 2020
"Why I Won’t #VoteBlue"

October 8, 2020
"A Liberal, an Abolitionist, a Radical Meet on Twitter"

September 05, 2020
"Violent Police Response to Protests Against Police Brutality"

August 31, 2020
"Never Underestimate Power of Politicians to Make Things Worse"

August 17, 2020
"GoFundme Supports White Supremacy and Racism"

July 30, 2020
"So Much Misinformation"

July 25, 2020
"To Those Still Asleep"

July 22, 2020
"24-25 July 2020 Call for Action"

July 18, 2020
"Never Again Is Now"

July 17, 2020
"This Is What Fascism Looks Like"

September 26, 2019
"Banned Books Week"

August 1, 2017
"The Tell-Trump Heart"

June 1, 2017
"To White Supremacists 'Free Speech' is Code for Inciting Violence"

January 3, 2017
"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good people do nothing."

September 8, 2016
"Privilege Blind"

November 2, 2015
"Staying Safe Online"

September 10, 2015
"Rites of the Savage Tribe"

May 27, 2015
"#KoboFail: erotica ≠ romance and romance ≠ erotica"

April 21, 2015
"Medical Inequality"

December 30, 2014
"Not a book review: Racism in America then and now"

October 28, 2014
"Vote Blue"

September 23, 2014
"Banned Books Week: Why Readers Need to Care About Ebook Sellers’ Arbitrary and Capricious Content Guidelines"

July 29, 2014
"Do I Pass?"

June 19, 2014
"Forced Pregnancy Movement"

April 29, 2014
"Coffee Shop as Office"

April 3, 2014
"Talking to Your Daughters About Sex"

March 13, 2014
"Cacophony of Gossip, Fabrications, Deceptions, etc."

March 5, 2014
"Just because you read it in a book…"

February 3, 2014
"Why Writing About Female Submission is a Feminist Act"

January 27, 2014
"KOTW: Clothed Female Naked Male (CFNM)"

October 22, 2013
"'Feminist' Backlash Against BDSM: A FemDom defends the eroticization of male domination"

October 14, 2013
"What Some Women Tops and Bottoms Have in Common"

September 17, 2013
"Older Than Her Chronological Age"

August 26, 2013
"Kink of the Week: Sapiosexuality"

August 13, 2013
"Mortgage Fraud — a personal perspective"

June 25, 2013
"Stolen Rights: Are you one of more than a hundred victims?"

October 22, 2012
"Election 2012 Endorsements: A Closer Look at Hidden Ballot Bombs"

July 28, 2012
"Judging a Book by its Cover"

May 22, 2012
"Avoiding Abuse in the Search for D/s"

March 26, 2012
"PayPal Back Pedals: Excuse Me if I Don’t Celebrate"

March 20, 2012
"Dirty Mind vs. Debit Card: My Anger Inspired Me"

February 2, 2012
"Busted Boobies or Titting Around with Cover Art"

December 4, 2011
"At Her Feet: Powering Your Femdom Relationship"

October 24, 2011
"BDSM Labels"

October 18, 2011
"Sex in Sin City: The Erotic Author’s Association Inaugural Conference"

July 26, 2011
"The Localvore Diet"

July 20, 2011
"Joining the Indie Revolution"

April 13, 2010
"Play at your own risk"

March 13, 2010
"Law for Corporate Profit"

January 10, 2010
"How to Destroy a 15-year Customer Relationship"

December 6, 2009
"Personal Art Work Perceptions"

October 18, 2009
"Author Platforms"

September 26, 2009
"Whose story is it anyway?"

September 18, 2009
"A Novel’s Journey"

July 12, 2009
"Feminist Pornography"

April 16, 2009
"Additional Reasons To Not Forget #amazonfail"

April 14, 2009
"Why We Should Not Forget #amazonfail"
Personal Art Work Perceptions
December 6, 2009
Recently, a woman in her seventh decade, watching physical therapy patients exercising in a swimming pool, commented on how so many folks of every age seem to wear tattoos these days. We spoke a bit of how much the acceptability of the practice had changed in recent decades. Not so very long ago, mostly sailors, prisoners, and bikers sported them.

I remember the first article I ever sold--for a pittance to a small, community newspaper--featured a tattoo artist who had covered his own body in ink. I shot the photo that appeared with my words using a mirror so the reader could see both his back and his chest. The newspaper purchased the article and photo because at the time, the man had an unusual amount of ink and his shop was unique. Today, he would get lost in the crowd.

I found myself intrigued at the time (decades ago), but I had no interest in a needle touching my own skin. That changed over time although I'm not sure when I decided I might want art on my own body. I do recall desiring a tattoo for several years, but hesitating for a number of reasons. As a diabetic, I worried about medical consequences. I learned that the stringent regulation of tattoo artists in Oregon make the possibility of infection or contracting HIV or hepatitis remote. I also had to balance perceived stereotypes about people with tattoos against my own self image.

When I divorced, that self image went through some drastic realignment and I selected three roses on a thorny stem to celebrate a new life that included reclaiming my health, returning to my first love of writing fiction, and a better understanding of who I am as a woman. Although I had spent some time talking to the artist and scrutinizing photographs of her work, I arrived for my appointment with a mixture of excitement and trepidation.

When the needle first attacked the skin on my hip, I thought the discomfort minuscule. As the hour and a half dragged on, keeping still became more onerous than the increasingly painful application of bright red and green ink. But I loved the results and everyone who saw it raved about the detail, the color, the beauty of my roses.

I started to notice ink on others more. I would see the edge of a tattoo peeking out from someone's shirt and look for an opportunity to get them to show me the rest. I became aware of how common and pervasive wearing ink had become among people of all ages.

I decided I wanted another tattoo and knew I wanted it on my breast. I had no idea what should go there, so I found excuses to frequent tattoo parlors and look at the flash art. On one of those excursions, I saw a stylized hummingbird. However, I knew no one at this tattoo parlor and did not feel comfortable putting my skin under just anyone's needle. With a picture from the Internet of a hummingbird in the position I wanted and a tattoo in the style I had seen, an artist delivered the perfect sketch. By the time I was ready for ink, however, the woman who had done my first tattoo had decided to stay home with her baby.

I sought a new woman because I did not feel comfortable having a man putting a needle on my breast. That narrowed my choices of artist significantly. Although body mod studios had become almost as ubiquitous as coffee shops, finding women in the tattoo business then was still difficult. Finding a woman with experience who someone else would recommend presented quite a challenge. Again, that has changed. More and more women have worked as tattoo artists long enough to develop portfolios and earn recommendations.

Although I had spent years reaching a point where I had ink applied to my skin the first time and nine months to decide I needed a second tattoo, I knew where and what I wanted for my third piece of art on the drive home from my second. Not only did this third tattoo take longer and cost more my other two combined, but I learned too late that the place I had chosen--above my shoulder blade--apparently is more sensitive to pain than my hip or my breast. I captured my experienced in a poem I call "Art Work."

Still, pain, cost, and the need to sit still aside, I do not think that the one tattoo I suffered for will be my last. And, I now understand people who mourn when they run out of skin to ink.